Cultivate greater emotional-, social- and self-awareness

We are surrounded by endless dominant narratives (otherwise known as social expectations) on how to be the 'best' kind of person - parent, partner, worker, woman and so on. If we, a) notice these narratives and the effect they have on our lives and, b) 'write' the narratives we'd prefer to live by into our realities, we set ourselves up to make positive changes in our lives more easily.

Change your relationship with problems

We cannot always eliminate problems, but we can definitely change the relationship we have with them. This is certainly true for people living with chronic illnesses, for example. In narrative-informed life coaching we do not use 'positive reframing' or 'mindset techniques' like we may expect from traditional life coaching. I take a more socially conscious approach to thinking about problems.

Enrich your relationships (including with yourself)

In narrative therapy identity is considered relational and performative. This means that we understand ourselves through the relationships we have with others. We 'perform' identity - it is fluid and varies from space to space. Keeping these ideas at the forefront of our minds and central in conversation, we gain more power and momentum in stepping into the person we'd like to be.

Gain clarity and confidence in decision making

Learn about what narratives and beliefs inform your decision making. Let's take a step back and consider how these are helping or hindering you. By building a greater understanding of our own values, skills and hopes, decision making comes easier.

Banish self-blame and inspire action

The person is not the problem - the problem is the problem. While accountability may be an important ingredient in taking action in our lives, we cannot say things like "hard work brings success" without acknowledging the fact that the gender pay gap exists and minorities face additional obstacles. The personal is often the political. Meaningful social and personal change comes when we notice these narratives around power then take action to change their effects.

© 2020 by Mim Kempson