Topics I regularly see in my practice
FIFO and long-distance relationships
Limiting/binary gender roles and assumptions
Polyamory, monogamy and definitions of commitment
Stonewalling and emotional distance
Contrasting love languages
Healing triggers, traumas and old narratives
Disconnects in goals, values and identity
Working with me
I work with heterosexual, queer, monogamous and polyam/ethical non-monogamous couples wanting to break down assumptions, expectations and restrictive roles in their relationship.
In couples work I help people explore the narratives that they've unconsciously and unwillingly brought into the relationship (such as from their upbringing) to then collectively transform those limiting expectations into 'information' that guides meaningful change.
The goal is always to inspire deeper connection - first and foremost connection to ourselves. When separated from ourselves our spark is dimmed - we seek to please others, voice our views less, struggle to assert boundaries, avoid self-accountability, go for what's safe over what's fulfilling and procrastinate on making moves that could transform our lives for the better. When we better connect with our own values, dreams and preferences we can make decisions that align with who we are. From there, our relationships become more authentic and your full self-expression is liberated and celebrated.
Core schools of thought that influence my approach to couples work include narrative therapy, persona archetypal therapy, non-violent communication, Imago Therapy, Internal Family Systems and Emotionally-Focused Therapy.