Updated: Dec 13, 2021
In my therapy private practice I welcome and embrace every gender identity, sexuality and relationship preference. It's incredibly important that my clients feel free to be 100% themselves in sessions. As a narrative therapist, I know that dominant narratives (expectations, social pressures) like heteronormativity and the privileging of monogamous relationships across most cultures leave a lot of people feeling unseen, ashamed and unsupported. In my work I strive to rectify that - providing people with a space to tell their stories and make meaning of the things they've perhaps never untangled or spoken about.
If you're in an open relationship, polyamorous, ethically non-monogamous - let's talk about it. EVERY relationship has their obstacles. Experiencing problems in your relationship is no reflection on your preferred structures. Monogamy holds a goldmine of problems! Let's not discriminate here. What I've often found is that the status of our relationships is a reflection of the relationship we have with ourselves. That's what I work with people on in our 1:1 sessions.
There is nothing worse than feeling judged by your therapist. Therapy is THE space where we're supposed to feel supported, liberated, celebrated and expansive - not contracted. What I love about having learnt counselling through narrative therapy is that we never assume ourselves to be an expert in anything - the therapist is seen as an 'interested collaborator' in your life, a 'co-researcher' working with you to make sense of all the information you've collected over the years, over a lifetime. The only person that can make sense of it all is YOU. Except, you don't need to do it all on your own. There's nothing saintly or superior about doing it on your own. Sometimes, we just need to be asked the right question to find the right answer. Sometimes, we just need to give voice to the things we've kept locked away. Sometimes, we just need a space to be seen. I hope you're getting the support you need to honour your story. Sending you love.