The quality of our relationships* influences the quality of our life
*especially the relationship we have with ourselves
This is the core belief that shapes my work. When disconnected from ourselves we're likely to feel empty, numb, lost, easily triggered, self-doubting... We pretend to be someone we're not (not necessarily intentionally) in attempt to be loved, to belong, to be supported... This way of living may feel good at first, but it's not good for us, because guaranteed - it doesn't last.
Think about it. From this inauthentic, performative place, how can we possibly have meaningful relationships that bring us joy and connection? Those relationship are built from being someone we're not. Chances are, we cannot wear a mask forever (how exhausting). And if people have fallen in love with a mask, those relationships are bound to crumble at some point...
It's hard to digest, I know. It's understandable that we don't want to step into the truth(s) of who we are because it's f*cking confronting, uncertain, risky and we don't even know what that is! No wonder we compare, copy or follow other people's paths, not walk our own. We need to hold compassion for ourselves when embarking on this process. This is the very journey I help people with.
I am a Registered Counsellor specialising in Sex and Relationship Therapy. I see individuals and couples that are navigating change, healing from betrayal, LGBTQIA+, dating, experiencing sexual difficulties/pain, struggling with differing libidos, choosing to separate, co-parenting, exploring monogamy or polyamory/ENM, and of course much more.
The foundation of my work is self-connection coaching. We cannot control, change or fully understand other people. By nurturing and empowering our relationship to self, we give the other pieces in our lives the best chances to fall into place.
I help people connect to their:
Confidence & self-belief
Purpose & life meaning
Sexuality & gender identity
Values & identity
Community & loved ones
Passions & gifts
Self trust & acceptance
Workshops & Presenting
I run professional and self development workshops on topics such as effective communication (in relationships and workplaces), narrative therapy, facilitation skills, supporting LGBTQ+ people/clients, using "writing as therapy", and more.
I have presented and run workshops at
Writing & Media
I write about all things relationships, sex, dating, LGBTQIA+ topics and doing the "inner work". I've been interviewed for the Sydney Morning Herald, Fashion Journal, That's Orgasmic, Coming Out Happy, and written for publications nationally and internationally.
I now also host a podcast, What I've Learned About Love, where my hope is to bring people the representation and role modelling of diverse relationships they maybe didn't receive growing up, but 100% deserve.